A step-by-step guide to stop your child from whining and complaining.
Children are going to whine at some point in time. As they are growing and learning to deal with all their emotions, they sometimes use whining as a way to express discomfort.
Maybe they stayed up too late the night before and are tired. That’s pretty normal and is remedied with a good night’s sleep. However, chronic whining is an indication of something more.
Let’s look at research about brain development in children for a moment to piece this puzzle together:
- Did you know that by age three, a child begins to focus on purpose? Even by this early age, they start to develop initiative and a sense of security in their abilities if they are given the opportunity to do so.
- If a child’s mind is shaped by limitation, criticism, control, or judgment, the child develops insecurities about their abilities. Then they can begin to hide their true selves, leading to acting out emotionally
Some deep-seated reasons for whining are:
- They don’t feel adequate.
- They don’t feel good enough about themselves.
- They feel this is the only solution to get what they want and attention
- They don’t feel loved and accepted.
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In a word- the child is disempowered.
I developed the Happy Life System to empower children starting at the age of three. I guide them to develop a positive mental mindset so that they walk through their life with a level of self-mastery that allows them to create the life of their dreams.
If your child is constantly whining and you are frustrated and stumped on how to help, here is a practice that will shape your child’s mind to develop a strong belief in themselves. It is also a way for you to connect with your child in a fun way. Connection and play are keys to opening the door to love and acceptance. There are lots of positive benefits from this one practice! Trust me, I’ve used it, and it works!
Practice: Play The Game of “Role Reversal,” where you are now the student and your child is the teacher. Empowering them through the art of leadership.
Step 1: You are the student, and the child is your teacher. You can do this for one activity, for a few hours, or for an entire day. When you begin, invite them to play by saying, “teach me how to do this,” “you are a master at this, can you show me your way?” or “give me your words of power to inspire my life.”
Step 2: Ask them, “if I want something in my life, how would you teach me if you were my mommy or daddy?” Get them to go within and ignite their awareness.
Why? You are creating a space for your child to recognize that you believe in their capabilities as a human and they can empower you. Everyone’s path to getting the result is different. However, being open to seeing and accepting their path is the key to building their confidence.
This is just one simple, fun way of empowering your child. I can’t wait to show you all the ways to empower you and your entire family.
