I need help teaching my child how to respect myself and others.
Have your recent interactions with your child been tough? Does every conflict feel as if you are grinding gears on a manual vehicle? The jerking, the resistance being metallic and jarring, nothing feeling easy. You shift gears, but it doesn’t feel like you both are ever on the same page.
This happens, and you are not alone! Luckily for you, we have some questions that may help you come to a solution.
1. Why are they being so disrespectful?
The fact of the matter is that there could be a multitude of different reasons why this is happening. However, research shows that these are some of the most prevalent triggers of disrespectful behavior:
- Unreasonable parental expectations
- The child doesn’t feel heard or respected
- Problems in school
- Family stress, including conflicts between the parents when a child is acting out
2. What is the root cause?
The common root cause that lies within every reason for disrespect is a lack of connection.
“When a human resists, they are out of balance with the divine flow of harmony, and connection is at the heart of harmony.” Lauren Magers
Lack of connection can cause friction within the child’s own emotions. This causes friction with themselves and/or others and makes them act out. Friction is caused by force. If you use force to try and fix it, you will find yourself experiencing even more resistance that will lead to the feeling of being stuck.
You must look at the root cause and reexamine your approach to get the gears to shift. This will provide a safe, human-to-human interaction.
3. But how do I do that?
You can begin to relieve the tension and friction with The Happy Life System’s Recharge Station, which opens a heart space thread for two humans to align.
Here are the steps that you should be taking:
- Self-reflection. It is time to step back from the dominating parenting role. This toxic role alone can bring up emotions, resistance, and ego flare-ups. “I’m the parent, they should just listen to me.” Thoughts should no longer be a part of your journey. Confront these old thoughts, write them out, and let them go.
- Find a calm, sacred space to connect. Do this exercise without any outside distractions. Make it special, comfortable, and peaceful so that they can communicate openly. You can light a candle or turn on calming, meditative music if you find it would be helpful.
- Role Reversal. Ask your child questions about a particular instance when they were disobedient and how they would have chosen to handle it if they were the parent. Be prepared to truly listen. The goal is to get the child enrolled and to feel empowered to teach you. Ask clarifying questions along the way. In the end, thank them for sharing their wisdom and guiding the way to harmony.
Your role in this practice is to build a heart-to-heart connection. In order to enter into a heart-to-heart connection with harmony, you must pivot away from friction and resistance. This is best achieved by getting on their level to build genuine respect and trust. Watch your relationship blossom right before your eyes!
And this is just one practice that I use. Throughout all my courses, I go into detail about this as well as my other methods and practices.
