Teaching your child to tell the truth.
Little white lies, black lies, gray lies, big lies, exaggerations, fibs, omissions, deceptions, evasions, and falsehoods.
These are all words to describe varying degrees of dishonesty. We may even let some of these forms of dishonesty slide from time to time.
When I was growing up, it was, “Oh, it’s just a little black lie,” to dismiss a form of dishonesty within my family.
But when it comes to our kids, well, we want complete honesty from them. (We should expect it from everyone, actually, but this one is for the kids!)
Sooner or later, though, our kids will be dishonest.
So, why do kids lie?
Research has shown that kids lie for a vast number of reasons:
- They are in fear and are scared that they are going to get into “trouble”
- They may be insecure and lack confidence.
- They feel the need to make themselves look better, cooler, smarter, etc., in order to fit in
- They learned this behavior
- They are too quick to speak and are not grounded in their truth
What do I do about my kid’s dishonesty?
If your child has started to explore the vast world of dishonesty and you want to get them back on an honest track, here are a couple of Happy Life System solutions for you.
1. Teach them the Happy Life System’s Life Code.
The Life Code tells us that every choice has a consequence. It’s the universal law of cause and effect. What you put out, you get back. It can be good or bad, help you or hurt you, move you forward or put you in reverse. The choice of direction is all up to you.
This law helps them understand that they are the creator of their own life.
Before I found this Life Code, I was still living in the reality that dishonesty was just “a little black lie.” I was in a cycle of chaos. I needed a path to move away from that chaos and discover a joyful life. The Happy Life System’s Life Code does just that.
2. Practice “2 Deep Breaths Before an Answer”
When you ask your child something that they have lied about in the past, have them stop, take two deep breaths, and remind them of the Life Code and that everyone makes mistakes.
With an open heart, tell them that you deeply honor their words and are here to listen.
This will help eliminate the need to rush and answer dishonestly. They will feel the genuineness in your words and not feel as if they are “in trouble.” It will give them the space they need to remember the life they want to create and that creating that life happens with every action they take. Empowering them to make the most beneficial choice.
A child needs a foundation of life’s values and principles in order to understand how to create their own life. This includes a moral compass that dictates their true north and a stage where they feel safe and protected to be free and express themselves.
Teach them: You have the right to feel safe, always.
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