The ultimate guide to teaching your child how to have confidence.
You want to see your child blossom, grow and take on the world with confidence. You do everything(sleepless nights, working overtime so your children have the very best life, driving to a million baseball practices, etc) in hopes that your children will have a happy life.
So, it’s heartbreaking when you see your child shrinking away, being self-conscious, timid, or even insecure to the point of paralysis. You might begin to question yourself and what you did wrong.
You wonder how you can help. Eventually, when you see no positive change in your child, you might even convince yourself that this is how they are or it is just their nature.
If you have found yourself in this position and feeling this way, don’t worry! When I adopted my two oldest sons at a very young age, I saw this in them. They were used to having everything done for them. Their parents would even answer for them when someone asked for their names!
I quickly realized that if my boys were going to thrive, they needed to develop their own inner voice, stand in their own truth, and build their own perspective on life. So, I began building that in them.
Today, I want to give you the secret sauce I used with them so that you can start guiding your beautiful child to discover their own confidence. It’s The Happy Life System’s New Language of Heart Speak.
Why is language so important? Why does it matter what words we use?
“The way our tongues speak is how our hearts feel. If we speak from a space of anger, aggression, and insecurity, our energy follows. If we speak from a space of love and heartfelt connection, we serve ourselves and the other person with our powerful words.”
Scientific research has found that when you use positive words, it strengthens brain function and changes our perceptions of everything in life. When you frame your language to speak with your highest and greatest good, your brain is triggered to release positive chemicals that promote happiness. Similarly, when you use negative language, it brings your energy field down, and your physical body is compromised.
So, the words you use are important. When they are constructive, make sure that they are positive, encouraging, helpful, healing, and blissful. Because when the words you use are destructive, they are limiting, hurtful, harmful, controlling, and bring despair.
Considering the ‘powerful force’ of your words, you must discipline yourself and your children to speak in a way that conveys the wealth you want to create. Building self-confidence starts with understanding that we all are unique expressions of energy. It is your own electricity that illuminates your life. You must allow your child freedom and give them the stage for their self-expression. When they find the right frame in life, they embody their pure potential.
That’s great, but where do I start?
Ask yourself these two questions:
1. Am I using language that is benefiting another human?
2. Am I limiting another human’s fullest potential with the words I use?
Here are some examples of how you may use the Language of Heartspeak with your child:
1. Question: Share with me how your life is thriving.
2. Statement: You are the master of your life, I am open to listen
3. Language: “I love you, and I am listening.”
With these words and phrases, you are beginning to:
- Activate their inner voice.
- Give space for them to believe in themselves and their dreams
- Have the freedom to express their emotions and feelings.
The switch to self-love is ignited within them while building their inner self-confidence and strength.
I can’t wait to share my whole series on The New Language of Heart Speak with you! Check it out.